By the time people reach young adulthood, they have an idea of what causes them stress. The text discusses several sources of stress. What sources of stress did the text identify of which you were previously unaware? Has your reading helped you identify any new sources of stress? If so, how could you deal with these?
I was really not previously aware that there was significant stress associated with decision making. I am a decision-maker. I always have been. In fact, if I were to isolate specific stress that came from decision making it would be other people’s inability to make decisions. My wife and I are exact opposites. I tend to be more pushy, more lets-do-it-right-now. For heaven’s sake don’t ever ask her to do something and expect her to do it right now. After we were married for a while I realized that her inability to act instantaneously was more a problem with my expectations than her inability. I also can only see the positive in change. I love to change. I am one of those people who likes to rearrange rooms occasionally because I hate it when everything looks the same all of the time. I understand better now why my wife does not like change. Apparently, for her, there is some form of stress attached to change. That is completely foreign to me.
I had never considered pain stressful, but rather I always thought of pain and stress as mutually exclusive. I have felt pain from stress as in my jaw hurting. That always seems to happen when I am under a heavy burden. However, I had never thought of getting stress from pain. I guess there is some stress involved with pain. I am kind of lucky. I have never had to undergo any type of surgery. I have allergies. That is about as sick as I have ever been. I would not describe myself as someone who has pain on a daily, weekly, or monthly basis; maybe a yearly basis because of my seasonal allergies. So stress from pain does not really compute. I could look at people in my life that do endure daily pain though. My friend Dorothy has back problems that cannot be fixed with surgery or medication. She just has to live with it. She has told me that sometimes she just huddles in the bed and cries because of the pain. That would probably qualify as stress from pain.
My main points of stress probably come from what the book labels as daily hassles. I take care of my three children, clean our house, and go to college. It feels like I start most of my days behind. I can definitely understand the stress of daily hassles.