Answer the following: Which value system or systems discussed in the text do you most relate to? Explain your answer.
I ascribe exclusively to the legalism value system discussed in the chapter. I was brought up in a Southern Baptist church and attended faithfully. As I have entered early adulthood I have sought a more personal relationship with Christ, rather than a corporate relationship. I have focused on being a Christian every day rather than just on Sunday. However, in saying that I ascribe to legalism, I admit my own hypocrisy. I did engage in premarital sex and cohabitation long before I was married. Looking back now I can see how my unwise actions have affected my life. Nonetheless, I have always held the belief that the Bible is the infallible Word of God, and that the laws written in it are immutable. I did feel shame and guilt for committing sins, in my view, against a holy God. On the other hand, these laws have informed my superego and provided my ID with a socially acceptable form of sex through marriage. I admit that my anxiety has diminished since becoming married, thereby providing proof that I am satisfying my ego, superego, and ID. I have not had the benefit of observational learning while growing up. Both my parent’s and my wife’s parent have engaged in premarital sex and cohabitation. My wife and I have had to construct our own value system for our children built on the Bible and our understanding of the Bible.
On a side note the value system that most disagree with, not surprisingly, is ethical relativism. I just cannot believe that all humans make their own rules for their moral life; while there are so many rules governing their physical life.
Finchner-Rathus, L., Nevid, J.S., Rathus, S.A. (2005). Human sexuality in a world of diversity, sixth edition. Boston, MA: Allyn & Bacon.